Tim’s parents supported his passion for soccer and basketball. Tim’s accomplishments show that you should always have high expectations of your self and your child.  Teach your children to reach for the sky, their achievements have no limits; they can be top in the field they chose.

We really want to encourage parents to have faith, a positive attitude, make your child welfare a high priority and you will reap boundless miracles!

Please read or listen to our life story on the interesting life we have raising our Deaf son and the numerous miracles we received.  Our son’s accomplishments went beyond our wildest dreams!  When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade!

Larry did amazing in the field of soccer; listen to our podcast with Larry’s favorite coach:

http://www.raisingdeafchildrenpodcast.com/brian-ainscough-larrys-favorite-soccer-coach

Here is a podcast that gives you guidelines on using your child’s passion to build their self confidence:

http://www.raisingdeafchildrenpodcast.com/building-your-deaf-child%e2%80%99s-self-confidence

The US Mens world cup soccer team deserved this win playing against a great Algeria team.  They were persistent despite the wrong calls by the officials in this and the previous match.  But that did not stop them from pursuing their vision which was advancing to the next round.  This is the type of examples our children need to succeed in their lives.  Personally as a soccer player myself, the father of a soccer player and watching the US games, I believe it has made them stronger and more determined to advance even further.  I anticipate a great result for this US team in the World Cup 2010 in South Africa.  Parents, support your child’s passions and the results will amaze you.

The Christian ministry for the Deaf provides the following services:

-Interpreted Sunday mornings worship services at 10:00 AM .  (Summer schedule varies.  Need to contact Vivian Marcano vivian@grace.org for the summer schedule).

-Bible class

-Ministry for the Deaf events

-Interpreting available at other events on request

-American Sign Language classes (ages 14 – adults)

-American Sign Language classes for children

We will like to share our experience with our Deaf son Larry.  Larry loved sports from a toddler; he would sit or lie down in front of the TV and just watch sports, all sports.  Larry was a very active toddler, so we noticed what kept him interested for an extended period.  While Larry attended Kendall Demonstration Elementary School on Gallaudet University campus he played basketball and some soccer.  But Larry always had surplus energy.

When we moved to Massachusetts, Larry was 10 years old.  Larry started playing soccer; formally I should say, in the town league.   Just about that time Larry started reading soccer magazines for children around his age.  Which also helped in improving his reading skills.   So one day Larry put Raz and I to sit down and he outlined his plan for his future with soccer.  He wanted to play soccer for the Marlboro town league, the Massachusetts club level, the Olympics and World Cup Soccer internationally.  Raz and I said, yes we will support him, even though we did not know how he was going to do all this.  So Larry led and we supported.   Larry achieved all his soccer goals except playing at the World Cup Soccer level.  Larry played at the highest club level in Massachusetts for one of the most elite clubs, at California State University in Northridge and the USA’s Men’s Deaf Soccer Olympic Team.  You can read our story for complete details on how Larry accomplished his goals.

Larry’s experience with soccer built his self-confidence tremendously.  It was something we never dreamed about.  We just saw his confidence grow and explode.  Which made him a really strong person.  This really helped with peer pressure.  Larry saved his allowance to purchase his favorite professional soccer teams jerseys and he wore them frequently to school.  He was serious about soccer, his health, and eating right, that is, salads, fruits and drinking water.  So he did not get involved in such activities as smoking cigarettes in High School, which I think was such a big plus for us.  It really was a blessing in disguise.

While playing soccer at the club level, Larry was fortunate to have a coach that valued Larry’s passion, skills, enthusiasm, and dedication to the game and deafness was not an issue.  Larry was playing soccer at the highest club level for the elite Boston Eagles Club.  Larry loved and respected this coach.  He valued the coach’s advice on non-sports topics such as education.  The coach advised him that education came first and soccer second. You can listen to our podcast with this coach at http://www.raisingdeafchildrenpodcast.com/brian-ainscough-larrys-favorite-soccer-coach

I remember Brian said to us to allow him to go wherever he wanted to go to school.  The reason being if he changed his major and he loved the school he will stay there and continue his education.  If he has to change schools it will delay his graduation.  Brian had experience with other university students and even his own experience coming from abroad.  He told Larry that he shared the same passion for soccer, but your education is important and nobody can take that away from you.  For example, if you have an injury in sports it can affect you playing professionally. Brian said he wished he had paid more attention to his education.

He came to school in the states from Ireland and his first priority was playing division I soccer and eventually pro.  He told Larry that he had no one to advise him because his parents were in Ireland.  He came to the USA on his own.  As parents we want to be there for our kids as much as possible.

The amazing thing is whatever your child’s passion, in addition to listening to you, they would listen to the coach or that leader.  And sometimes they even listen to them more or are more receptive to what they are saying.  Because they think you as a parent is preaching to them.  The coach is like another ally, so that is a good thing.

As parents we all want confident children!  When you build your son or daughter’s self-confidence as a child, it pays off when they become a teenager.  It will help them with peer pressure, with school and with their goals.  When you build your son and daughter’s self-confidence as a teenager, it pays off when they become adults.  When they are in university by themselves or when they have moved out.  This will carry through with them the rest of their lives.  So we invite you today to focus on building your child’s self-confidence by supporting their passion!  Usually children have more than one passion.  Larry’s second passion was social studies and geography, which was completely different from soccer. That was his undergrad major.  That helped him with his reading and communication skills.  This is a gift you can give your child that will be with them forever.  Nobody can take their self confidence away from them.  It is never too late to start!

We talk about Larry’s self confidence and his passion in sports and soccer.  But I want parents and people to know that it did not only come out on the soccer field, with this coach and the players.  It came out in all areas of his life.  When he was choosing a school he was confident enough to say I want to go to this school all the way on the west coast in California.  He did his masters, he traveled, he played soccer abroad, he founded I think 3-4 groups and he is on the Board of Directors at Deaf Inc.  He is involved in International Committees for the Deaf.  So you know he is a leader in the Deaf community.  We saw the confidence on the soccer field and his love for soccer, but now it just blossomed in all different areas of his life.  And that is what you have to look at, the benefits to your children.

All this advice is for children in general.  The only additional thing you need to do if you have a Deaf child is to be able to communicate with them. And that is by learning ASL, American Sign Language.

For us at Deaf Parenting our resolution is to provide information that can give you hope and help you with the challenges and joys of parenting a special needs child.  Let us know which topics you will like to hear more on.

Building your child’s self confidence is very important to their future.  Make sure you give them your full support.

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If you recently found out your child is deaf, do not despair!  Welcome to an interesting life, one of challenges and rewards!   This may be difficult to believe now but it is true.  Here are a couple of tips on what you can get started on:

#1: Meet Deaf adults!  This will ease your despair and show you there is hope and your child has a bright future.  We remember when we went to the Summer Learning Vacation at Gallaudet University .  We met so much Deaf professionals and parents that we started and continued communicating with.

#2: One of the goals you should be, start learning sign language as soon as possible!  You need to communicate with your child as much as possible, just the same as you would communicate with your hearing child.

#3: Treat your child as normal as possible.  Your child is normal; you just need to use a different method of communication!

So no more despair, let’s get started on an interesting and rewarding journey.

If you child is less than 10 years old.  Here are a couple of tips that you use:

#1: Continue that communication.  Learn more signs, preferablyAmerican Sign Language.  As your child gets older, their interest changes, you need to be able to communicate on these new topics.

#2: Make sure you are proactively doing your best to nurture your child’s interest in reading.  We have a podcast on reading at www.raisingdeafchildrenpodcast.

#3: What is your child’s passion?   Is it soccer, basketball, gymnastics or swimming?  Support your child with his or her passion, this build self-confidence.  We have a separate podcast with Brian Ainscough-Larry’s favorite soccer coach.  You can see Larry’s passion and the respect and support he got from this coach.

So 2010 is a time to renew your efforts with making sure your child gets all they deserve.

If your child is a teenager, here are some tips:

#1:  Well all your previous communication efforts should be paying off now!  You can have in-depth conversations with your child.  Keep onlearning American Sign Language; I was happy we continued learning American Sign Language while Larry was a teenager. Communication is so important in those teenage years and believe me teens use different terms friends.  Teens start getting impatient if you cannot communicate fluently.

#2: Proactively monitor your child’s education.  Make sure adequate progress is being made and start discussing with your child what they will like to do post high school.  It is a good time to have their school start introducing your child’s class to Deaf professionals.

#3: Fathers get involved!  All children need guidance from both parents.  I remember parents at TLC will ask me how Larry and I had such a great relationship.  I told them it was communication.  I did a podcast entitled “I will Not Trade Him For The World”.  Please, fathers, do not abandon your Deaf child, it can be the best thing that happened to you.

It is never too late to start!

For us at Deaf Parenting our resolution is to provide information that can give you hope and help you with the challenges and joys of parenting a special needs child.  Let us know which topics you will like to hear more about by entering a comment or sending us email.

In Larry, Amrit and Raveena’s house the kitchen was separated from the living and dining room by walls like this:

For better visual communication, Larry and Amrit removed the walls of the kitchen, now the kitchen, living and dinning room is one open area. Now Larry, Amrit and Raveena can easily communicate from anywhere in the kitchen, dining room and living room.

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Larry Stephen

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Welcome to our family story, our life’s journey with our Deaf son.  My husband, Alex, and I have 2 children, Larry and Charisma.  Larry and his wife Amrit are both Deaf.  Their beautiful daughter Raveena is hearing.

Our story details how we discovered Larry was Deaf, our decision to move to the USA for his education, our plans, goals, challenges, how we overcame them and the miracles we received as rewards.  Alex and I hope our experience with parenting a Deaf child, his education, success in sports, his achievements in the Deaf community and his personal life can be an inspiration to help you on your journey.

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